First of all, you need to be sure what type of men you are attracted to and focus on them. Find out what exactly attracts you, their appearance or their personal charm. Don’t fixate on looks; you can find a wonderful friend or a lover in a man who doesn’t live up to the widely accepted standards of male beauty. Write down manly qualities, classifying them into three groups: the first group comprises the most essential traits; the second group has desirable qualities, and the third group consists of unacceptable features. Consult your list every time a new man turns up in your life.
Then, program yourself to meeting a new man. If you think that you are too fat or too skinny or too old to be interesting for a man, you are never going to succeed. The same applies to your shame or guilt for the past; forget them and get rid of negative emotions. You should believe that you can meet HIM anytime and anywhere. Successful flirting is possible only if you are in high spirits. Write down all your negative thoughts on a sheet of paper and burn it. This ritual helps to cheer oneself up. You shouldn’t be depressed when you are with a man, so give impression that you are fun and outgoing.